Chiming in on Wedding rings
I don’t like rings. My fingers swell in the night. I don’t like finding unknown crud in my facets or prongs. I am not even fond of finding known crud in those places.
So I don’t wear a wedding ring…haven’t for most of my marriage. But, husband believes in “the wedding ring”, has never taken it off his finger and is mildly dismayed – maybe more than mildly…that I don’t wear one.
The diamond in my engagement ring is so small you need a magnifying glass to locate it. It’s matching wedding ring once had “Forever Always” engraved on the inside…but apparently I wore it long enough for “Forever Always” to erode into “Forever Al”.
My husband’s name is not Al.
Even if the diamond were big I wouldn’t wear it and even if the wedding ring didn’t say “Forever Al”, I still wouldn’t wear it. I have grown accustomed to a ring-free life and I like it that way.
In theory, I do like jewelry. Husband has purchased two sets of large diamond stud earrings for me (to make up for the itsy bitsy engagement ring diamond ). I have a rather small ear lobe so when I used to wear these 4 large diamonds, it made my ear lobes look like they were sporting flood lights.
As things happen, I became allergic to earrings – developed a creeping crud cum infection in my lobes and I stopped wearing the studs.
Husband then decided that it was silly to have 4 nice diamonds sitting in my jewelry box so he had a ring made up with the four stones, thinking I could wear the ring at least once in a while and get some use of these diamonds.
I found myself full circle back again with a ring I didn’t want to wear for the reasons outlined in paragraph one.
I have completely recovered from the ear crud that plagued me when I used to wear the studs, still have the anti-ring philosophy and wonder, dare I ask him to take the ring and have it made back into the two pairs of stud earrings?
I fear that even if he went along with that plan I’d end up with a new ear problem and perhaps those 4 diamonds would have to morph from earrings back into a ring again. Did I mention I’m not big on any necklace that has a fine chain? That let’s out the idea of taking said diamonds and putting them into some form of a necklace.
What the hell am I going to do with these diamonds?
Who says diamonds are a girl’s best friend.
I don’t like rings. My fingers swell in the night. I don’t like finding unknown crud in my facets or prongs. I am not even fond of finding known crud in those places.
So I don’t wear a wedding ring…haven’t for most of my marriage. But, husband believes in “the wedding ring”, has never taken it off his finger and is mildly dismayed – maybe more than mildly…that I don’t wear one.
The diamond in my engagement ring is so small you need a magnifying glass to locate it. It’s matching wedding ring once had “Forever Always” engraved on the inside…but apparently I wore it long enough for “Forever Always” to erode into “Forever Al”.
My husband’s name is not Al.
Even if the diamond were big I wouldn’t wear it and even if the wedding ring didn’t say “Forever Al”, I still wouldn’t wear it. I have grown accustomed to a ring-free life and I like it that way.
In theory, I do like jewelry. Husband has purchased two sets of large diamond stud earrings for me (to make up for the itsy bitsy engagement ring diamond ). I have a rather small ear lobe so when I used to wear these 4 large diamonds, it made my ear lobes look like they were sporting flood lights.
As things happen, I became allergic to earrings – developed a creeping crud cum infection in my lobes and I stopped wearing the studs.
Husband then decided that it was silly to have 4 nice diamonds sitting in my jewelry box so he had a ring made up with the four stones, thinking I could wear the ring at least once in a while and get some use of these diamonds.
I found myself full circle back again with a ring I didn’t want to wear for the reasons outlined in paragraph one.
I have completely recovered from the ear crud that plagued me when I used to wear the studs, still have the anti-ring philosophy and wonder, dare I ask him to take the ring and have it made back into the two pairs of stud earrings?
I fear that even if he went along with that plan I’d end up with a new ear problem and perhaps those 4 diamonds would have to morph from earrings back into a ring again. Did I mention I’m not big on any necklace that has a fine chain? That let’s out the idea of taking said diamonds and putting them into some form of a necklace.
What the hell am I going to do with these diamonds?
Who says diamonds are a girl’s best friend.
posted by mary bishop | 12:54 PM
12 Comments:
Why not pass them on to your children?
So leave the ring sitting in your jewelry box... or find a nice thick chain and string the ring on it. :) And if he complains, tell him that you're secretly having an affair and you just don't want your boyfriend, Al, to know about him. I'm and off and on jewelry person. I'll go for weeks without it, then weeks with it. Etc. I can't play the piano with rings. I can't type with rings, and sometimes I forget to put them back on. Sometimes I forget to take them home. It happens. My wedding band was uncomfortable. I never wore it. I don't think it was a premonition. I'd do the same with a new one if it's uncomfortable too. But that's just how I am and everyone else just has to deal with me. :)
LB - I wrote a response but it's not showing up -- knowing blogger I'll wait a while and maybe it will pop up. (basically I said I'd have to be dead to pass them on and by then who cares what happens to them?)
Echrai...you nailed it on the piano, typing etc. - another reason why I don't like rings..plus sweater snagging and generally having something else that needs to be cleaned, flossed, polished etc.
Well, there are bracelets and pins . . . but sounds like you want the earrings. I'm sure he gave them to you to enjoy, and if you'll get more enjoyment out of them as earrings, you should go for it again. You could go to a jewelry designer and check out other necklace options -- what's that ringy chokery thing called -- omega? I'm not sure, I'm picturing a wire with a drop pendant of the four diamonds. I have a visible, though not huge, engagement ring, and no other diamonds, except itsy bitsy ones. You definitely need to be sportin' those babies, somehow.
Susie...I just got an anonymous email that suggested I pierce other body parts that I won't mention -- I like your ideas better!
I'm not really a jewelry person either, though my wedding ring is the only piece of jewelry I DO wear (my engagement ring, however no longer fits. Maybe I'll get it resized someday).
I also suffered from ear crud. My holes have grown shut, lo these 10 years. Maybe I'll repierce them and ONLY wear studs and never take them out. I do sometimes feel like my ears look a little naked. I'm about the only person I know who doesn't wear earrings!
Welcome to the ear crud club, Andrea!
I can wear hoops sucessfully - I'm glad they're back in vogue, but basically I wear my cheap timex watch and my lapis lazuli bracelet and that's it.
I was thinking a necklace. I have the ear crud issue too. I find that the ear care stuff from Claire's - dont know if you know of it- works wonders. As soon as I stop using it for a week or so...ouch.
Your very creative, you'll come up with a good way for both of you to enjoy the diamonds.
I'm getting some of that ear care...you're the second person who said it's really good. Thanks for the tip!
How about selling the diamonds and then donating the cash to a fellow blogger whose bloggername is an anglicization of his actual last name which happens to mean "diamond."?
Or, if not that, you can find out what the whole diamonds on the soles of her shoes thing is all about.
Sparky...love the song you
mentioned..love Paul Simon and the concert in Central Park...I have the double CD (live) and the single CD...and adore that song...
Just like I knew Sylow was a mathematical term..I knew Sparklestone meant diamond in some form..perhaps you are Coal? Kohl? Squeezed coal as in what Superman could do with his powerful fist...I knew you were a diamond in the rough.
You could put them into a bracelet... OR, you could donate them to your local dentist! : D
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